Posts Tagged ‘wisdom’: 8

The Wisdom of the Pothole

People in mindfulness circles love to quote Portia Nelson’s “Autobiography in Five Short Chapters.”  It’s a little work of wisdom about the patterns we habitually bring to the challenges in our lives. We’re all familiar with helplessness, victimhood, and denial of the unpleasant.  One of these may be our fallback.  That’s why I appreciate this […]

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Learning to Enjoy Every Sandwich

We all have some form of magical thinking when it comes to dying. It’s how we attempt to gain control over our fears. My particular brand of magical thinking is that if you eat well, exercise and meditate, you will most likely have a long and healthy life. I know this is not entirely rational…

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A New Journey (Or Two)

This month marks a year since my one year to live project came to an end. And a year since my close childhood friend Marisa died of metastatic breast cancer…. I have some good news to share. I’ve just come back from Marisa’s brother & sister-in-law’s baby shower. Marisa would have been an amazing aunt to this little one, and I like to imagine her smiling at all of us.

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Lessons from Mile Marker 11

Bright and early this morning, my 8-year-old son and I walked over the Williamsburg Bridge to Brooklyn for our annual NYC Marathon ritual. This fall rite involves hot chocolate for him and a cappuccino for me as we stake our positions in a patch of sunlight near the 11th mile marker. If we time it […]

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When Death Is Real: A Postscript on My Year to Live

What I did not write about was the all-too-real end-of-life journey of my earliest childhood friend Marisa, who was courageously facing metastatic cancer while I went about my hypothetical journey.

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Advice on Living From the New American “Dr. Death”

People who had substantive discussions with their doctor about their end-of-life preferences were far more likely to die at peace and in control of their situation, and to spare their family anguish. Above all, there are 4 simple questions to talk through with those who are ill…

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On Finding My Favorite High School Teacher

I wanted to ask if she might like to have lunch someday. I felt nervous and 17 again. Thankfully she beat me to it. That’s how I came to be seated in the dining room of her orderly, yet cheerful, northern NJ condo.

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How (And How Not) to Be a Good Samaritan

Daniel Goleman says that we don’t have to be stuck running the same neural connections for the rest of our lives just because that’s what we’ve always done. It turns out that we can become better people by reprogramming ourselves — even when time crunch and life pressures have conditioned us to sometimes turn a blind eye.

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